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# When You Are Done
Hello once again.
I realise that Im back to doing nothing. Absolutely nothing. I have this friday, i mean tmr to look forward to and this saturday.
But before that, i jz wanna blog abt nothing in particular.
What makes life meaningful.
Let's take a look at some of the things i've come across so far.
Lets start with the most obvious, or rather famous/infamous
1. Relationships
Firstly, this is in no way condemning anyone cuz i would be guilty of doing that to myself. But yeah, its like, quite a pressure or rather, the norm for people to be looking for someone to be attached to. Everyone thinks that when u're single, u're looking for someone. Also, the singles will also be looking for someone. Maybe its seen as a cure for loneliness. Im sure we all know nobody does it for the status or solely out of peer pressure. But we all long for someone who understands us. Someone who cares. Someone who is there for us. A person to share experiences with. And i guess that's make life a little more meaningful in its own sweet way. It makes you one (haha) feel appreciated, cared for. I've also heard and seen how it has helped many people along the way. How people find their strength to carry on. And i admit it is normal for us. Even for me to have a special someone. A person who means so much. Yup, it does have its way of making life more meaningful.
But now, let me start on what i've seen. Relationships can hurt, real bad. Is it really worth it? I would say yes, but obviously at the right time. The amount of hurt it can cause, is perhaps proportional to the square of intimacy. Firstly, its not easy getting over a person. Secondly, it will also leave a scar/wound that will be hurting/a reminder to the next time i/you/one falls in love. I guess it doesn't really make life more meaningful after all. It does make it more "lively" through the SMSes or gifts or time spent together, but it doesn't really equate to more meaning once its gone. Yes, once its gone, if its there till death, i would not deny the meaning it adds to life.
2. Money
Cliched. Everyone knows money can't buy happiness. It can't buy time. But it can buy that plane trip of a beautiful holiday. It can but that computer that makes life so much more efficient. Let's not discredit money too quickly. It makes life a little easier to bear, not only cuz of that cab u can take home when u're dead tired, but more for the security u can have. Like now, being unemployed sucks cuz i know my money is jz draining away. All i've saved up for the past 5 (or slightly less) months being drained away like how i drain my food away (i know i eat fast). So having money to burn does make life a little more meaningful in the sense that each day is lived knowing what tmr holds (or the fact that tmr will hold itself together). It will also buy u memories. How? The idealist will tell you memories can be made out of anything. But i say money does have its role to play. One that starts off most memories. That movie, that dinner, that holiday, that outing, that game. It all cost something. And having the money to spend those times really does help. It also buys time. How? Apart from the simple (and rather life stressing) fact that u can do things faster with better equipment (think of zapping/online banking/shopping/computer), it buys time with people. A treat will always come in handy. So does the simple fact that u're willing to spend time (and money) with someone. It buys a stronger relationship with someone cuz of the time that u are able to spend together. Unless of course u spend time with people over nothing. Which i know is totally possible. Ask councillors. Haha. But life can get more meaningful with the memories money can buy. Of course shopaholics agree hands down (but their hands are too busy picking stuff off that rack already)
3. Friends
The obvious, so im not gonna argue how they make life more meaningful. Let's see how they don't. Relating to point 1, they can jz as much, perhaps to a lesser degree, hurt and make life as painful as it shoudn't be. They also, like everything, won't last forever. At least not for me. I know they don't. This is a rather personal point of view, but yeah, friends don't last forever. Over time, and distance, friends can grow apart. And then, the forgotten serve as a grim signpost that life has lost its meaning. I know many of u treasure ur friends u have now, and i strongly encourage u to do so, but how much more meaningful is life with them really? There are times when u have to actually sacrifice what u want for them. Even to the extreme where life if lived for the others. Where conformity becomes a routine. Where one cannot imagine not having anyone to spend a whole week with. How much meaning is there to life, when they are all u define life to be.
Ok, i know this sounds like a really emo post. But i am fine. (and the world has come to the point where when one says he/she is fine, he has to add this line) Really, i really am ok. And i know this isn't my best form of argumentation cuz i realised halfway through, some parts are really jz ramblings, but oh well, tis jz a blog, not a GP assignment. Please do add your thoughts either in a tag or a comment. Much appreciated! Of course, u can start turning it into a friend-dedication post. Haha =)
But I would want to conclude that in life, what means the most, is really All of the Above. Go figure.Labels: Meaningful
the story ends like this;
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